Helpful Resources for Couples
One of the hallmarks of a good professional, whether it’s your accountant or your psychologist, is staying connected to the current trends and information in the field.
I have a passion for psychology, for helping people and reconnecting couples. As such I am constantly learning more about new and better ways to provide counseling and help. Some of those ways include various books, websites or audio material. Below is a list of things that I have found helpful that would be user-friendly to the average person who is not a psychologist.
MP3 Downloads:
Your Brain On Love, by Stan Tatkin, PsyD. Dr. Tatkin has written 2 previous books on his style of couples therapy (PACT). This is his latest endeavor and, in my opinion, his best. I recommend to all of my patients that they buy this download and listen to it in the initial phases of working with me. It creates a common language for talking about the problems that tend to derail marriages. So far everyone who has listened to this has reported that it is extremely helpful and useful. You can download it onto a smart-phone and listen to it on the go, an easy way to get started learning more about how to create healthy and lasting relationships.
Books:
How to Be an Adult and How to Be an Adult in a Relationship, both by David Richo. These books have an underlying eastern-philosophy orientation that has been getting a lot of positive attention in research lately (such as mindfulness or meditation). They are both clearly written and help folks learn more adaptive patterns
Is It You, Me, or ADD? Stopping the Roller Coaster When Someone You Love Has Attention Deficit Disorder, by Gina Pera and Russell Barkley. This is a great book for anyone who has a partner who has ADHD/ADD. It can help both of you realize the special challenges of this disorder and gives tips and tools for dealing with ADHD in a couple.
Wired For Love, by Stan Tatkin. This book is based on the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT), which is the main therapeutic approach that I work from in couples therapy. It is very short and clearly written and also contains exercises that couples can do to improve their relationships.
The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships by John Gottman . Dr. Gottman has done research on couples for 40 years and has much to say about what predicts divorce and what predicts happiness amongst couples. This short book introduces many helpful concepts about communication, hurt and repair in relationships.
The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook, 5th Edition by Edmund J. Bourne. This is an excellent overall resource for understanding anxiety disorders, which range from social anxiety to fear of flying or even Post-traumatic Stress Disorder. While anxiety can be quite disabling it is actually very treatable with professional help and proper lifestyle changes. This book is extensive in its coverage of the types of anxiety disorders and their treatments, including alternative things such as acupuncture or herbal remedies. If one or both of a couple has an anxiety disorder this book can be immensely helpful in getting proper treatment and making sure that both of you understand these complex and frustrating disorders.
Divorce: Helping your Child Adjust, C. Schroeder and B. Gordon
The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, Judith Wallerstein PhD
Websites:
www.stantatkin.com This is the website for Dr. Stan Tatkin, who is the developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy.
Blogs:
http://stantatkinblog.wordpress.com
http://lydianetzer.blogspot.com/2012/04/15-ways-to-stay-married-for-15-years.html. This is a posting from writer Lydia Netzer with her advice on marriage. It’s not perfect but it has quite a few good ideas. Reading the comments sent in by readers is also of great value. It’s both heart-warming and reassuring to hear so many people make the case that marriage is worth it, even if it can be really hard at times.
https://www.tuck.com/addiction-and-sleep/ This blog post is really helpful in explaining how different addictions interfere with sleep, addiction related sleep disorders, sleep problems during addiction recovery, and tips for improving sleep during addiction recovery.
https://www.tuck.com/alcohol-and-sleep/ This blog post gives digestible details on how alcohol impacts sleep. The post is detailed and covers many things including; the problem with using alcohol as a sleep aid, how drinking alcohol can cause sleep apnea, the link between alcohol and insomnia, and the impact of alcohol on brain wave activity during sleep.
https://www.tuck.com/non-drug-therapies/ This blog post provides advice for non-drug therapies that can help those with sleeping issues. The list is long, so if you or someone you care about is looking for alternative ways to get a good nights rest, then this post is worth looking through.
One of the hallmarks of a good professional, whether it’s your accountant or your psychologist, is staying connected to the current trends and information in the field.
I have a passion for psychology, for helping people and reconnecting couples. As such I am constantly learning more about new and better ways to provide counseling and help. Some of those ways include various books, websites or audio material. Below is a list of things that I have found helpful that would be user-friendly to the average person who is not a psychologist.
MP3 Downloads:
Your Brain On Love, by Stan Tatkin, PsyD. Dr. Tatkin has written 2 previous books on his style of couples therapy (PACT). This is his latest endeavor and, in my opinion, his best. I recommend to all of my patients that they buy this download and listen to it in the initial phases of working with me. It creates a common language for talking about the problems that tend to derail marriages. So far everyone who has listened to this has reported that it is extremely helpful and useful. You can download it onto a smart-phone and listen to it on the go, an easy way to get started learning more about how to create healthy and lasting relationships.
Books:
How to Be an Adult and How to Be an Adult in a Relationship, both by David Richo. These books have an underlying eastern-philosophy orientation that has been getting a lot of positive attention in research lately (such as mindfulness or meditation). They are both clearly written and help folks learn more adaptive patterns
Is It You, Me, or ADD? Stopping the Roller Coaster When Someone You Love Has Attention Deficit Disorder, by Gina Pera and Russell Barkley. This is a great book for anyone who has a partner who has ADHD/ADD. It can help both of you realize the special challenges of this disorder and gives tips and tools for dealing with ADHD in a couple.
Wired For Love, by Stan Tatkin. This book is based on the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT), which is the main therapeutic approach that I work from in couples therapy. It is very short and clearly written and also contains exercises that couples can do to improve their relationships.
The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships by John Gottman . Dr. Gottman has done research on couples for 40 years and has much to say about what predicts divorce and what predicts happiness amongst couples. This short book introduces many helpful concepts about communication, hurt and repair in relationships.
The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook, 5th Edition by Edmund J. Bourne. This is an excellent overall resource for understanding anxiety disorders, which range from social anxiety to fear of flying or even Post-traumatic Stress Disorder. While anxiety can be quite disabling it is actually very treatable with professional help and proper lifestyle changes. This book is extensive in its coverage of the types of anxiety disorders and their treatments, including alternative things such as acupuncture or herbal remedies. If one or both of a couple has an anxiety disorder this book can be immensely helpful in getting proper treatment and making sure that both of you understand these complex and frustrating disorders.
Divorce: Helping your Child Adjust, C. Schroeder and B. Gordon
The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, Judith Wallerstein PhD
Websites:
www.stantatkin.com This is the website for Dr. Stan Tatkin, who is the developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy.
Blogs:
http://stantatkinblog.wordpress.com
http://lydianetzer.blogspot.com/2012/04/15-ways-to-stay-married-for-15-years.html. This is a posting from writer Lydia Netzer with her advice on marriage. It’s not perfect but it has quite a few good ideas. Reading the comments sent in by readers is also of great value. It’s both heart-warming and reassuring to hear so many people make the case that marriage is worth it, even if it can be really hard at times.
https://www.tuck.com/addiction-and-sleep/ This blog post is really helpful in explaining how different addictions interfere with sleep, addiction related sleep disorders, sleep problems during addiction recovery, and tips for improving sleep during addiction recovery.
https://www.tuck.com/alcohol-and-sleep/ This blog post gives digestible details on how alcohol impacts sleep. The post is detailed and covers many things including; the problem with using alcohol as a sleep aid, how drinking alcohol can cause sleep apnea, the link between alcohol and insomnia, and the impact of alcohol on brain wave activity during sleep.
https://www.tuck.com/non-drug-therapies/ This blog post provides advice for non-drug therapies that can help those with sleeping issues. The list is long, so if you or someone you care about is looking for alternative ways to get a good nights rest, then this post is worth looking through.
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