If you have tried couples therapy or know someone who has, and found that it didn't seem to help, don't worry
Couples therapy can be practiced in many different ways. I practice a style of couples therapy known as "Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy" or PACT. This is a relatively new approach that is quite different from traditional couples therapy. Developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin, an associate professor at UCLA, this approach uses what we understand about two very important areas of psychology (neurobiology and attachment) to lead the couples therapy process. The fields of neurobiology and attachment are two of the fastest growing and most influential areas of psychology at this time. Ongoing research in both areas is helping us to better understand the human brain and how it forms and maintains relationships with others.
Using brain science and attachment research I will help you and your partner understand why your relationship is stuck or breaking down. I can help you and your partner trace back the beginnings of your brain's maps of intimacy to understand what you expect but also fear from others in a loving relationship. Many of us unconsciously expect and fear things like abandonment, hurt, rejection, betrayal or criticism. Without realizing it, our brain has literally been "wired" to perceive these emotions in our partners, sometimes when they really are there, but sometimes also when they are not. We can act in ways that distance ourselves from our partners without even realizing it. Through couples therapy I can help the both of you see how each other's brains actually react to intimacy and what needs to be changed in order to not "trigger" each other so often. I can also teach you what to do when you do trigger your partner or get triggered.
Research has shown that even when just one person in a couple is in distress, couples therapy can be the most helpful treatment. This makes sense. We live with our partners every day. They are our touchstone, for better or for worse. When this primary relationship is loving and secure, we can reach our full potential in many ways. But when it is fraught with conflict, or lurches along in fits and starts, we will struggle to live fully. When our relationship is not stable we may never achieve the deep sense of happiness that comes from feeling truly loved and protected by that one special person who holds you above all others. From a secure base we can become our best person, and in helping our partner have that same secure base we can also give that gift back to them. Furthermore, children who are living with securely attached parents benefit from this stable home base and can grow and develop their full potential as well.
Learning about PACT has revolutionized the way that I practice therapy. I have seen people shed dysfunctional patterns of relating and unlock the deep love they have for each other. It has created some of the most rewarding work of my career. I look forward to consulting with you about this approach to therapy and welcome your questions. As with all of my services I offer a free initial consultation to see if you and your partner feel this is an approach that would fit for you both. If you have been struggling in your relationship with your partner she encourages you to take that first step and call. We have all heard that "when nothing changes, nothing changes". Change is possible but takes courage and support. Reaching out to a therapist can be the first step towards that change.
Couples therapy can be practiced in many different ways. I practice a style of couples therapy known as "Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy" or PACT. This is a relatively new approach that is quite different from traditional couples therapy. Developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin, an associate professor at UCLA, this approach uses what we understand about two very important areas of psychology (neurobiology and attachment) to lead the couples therapy process. The fields of neurobiology and attachment are two of the fastest growing and most influential areas of psychology at this time. Ongoing research in both areas is helping us to better understand the human brain and how it forms and maintains relationships with others.
Using brain science and attachment research I will help you and your partner understand why your relationship is stuck or breaking down. I can help you and your partner trace back the beginnings of your brain's maps of intimacy to understand what you expect but also fear from others in a loving relationship. Many of us unconsciously expect and fear things like abandonment, hurt, rejection, betrayal or criticism. Without realizing it, our brain has literally been "wired" to perceive these emotions in our partners, sometimes when they really are there, but sometimes also when they are not. We can act in ways that distance ourselves from our partners without even realizing it. Through couples therapy I can help the both of you see how each other's brains actually react to intimacy and what needs to be changed in order to not "trigger" each other so often. I can also teach you what to do when you do trigger your partner or get triggered.
Research has shown that even when just one person in a couple is in distress, couples therapy can be the most helpful treatment. This makes sense. We live with our partners every day. They are our touchstone, for better or for worse. When this primary relationship is loving and secure, we can reach our full potential in many ways. But when it is fraught with conflict, or lurches along in fits and starts, we will struggle to live fully. When our relationship is not stable we may never achieve the deep sense of happiness that comes from feeling truly loved and protected by that one special person who holds you above all others. From a secure base we can become our best person, and in helping our partner have that same secure base we can also give that gift back to them. Furthermore, children who are living with securely attached parents benefit from this stable home base and can grow and develop their full potential as well.
Learning about PACT has revolutionized the way that I practice therapy. I have seen people shed dysfunctional patterns of relating and unlock the deep love they have for each other. It has created some of the most rewarding work of my career. I look forward to consulting with you about this approach to therapy and welcome your questions. As with all of my services I offer a free initial consultation to see if you and your partner feel this is an approach that would fit for you both. If you have been struggling in your relationship with your partner she encourages you to take that first step and call. We have all heard that "when nothing changes, nothing changes". Change is possible but takes courage and support. Reaching out to a therapist can be the first step towards that change.
Krista Jordan, Ph.D, ABPP
4534 Westgage Blvd, Suite 230
Austin, Texas 78745
512.293.3807
kristadjordan@gmail.com
4534 Westgage Blvd, Suite 230
Austin, Texas 78745
512.293.3807
kristadjordan@gmail.com
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